But I am even more sick of reading stories about "victims' advocacy" organizations that fail - flat refuse - to acknowledge the need for self-defense.
Calls to police will not always help. Many times you will be prevented from making the call.
Restraining orders are interesting legal documents, but time and again it has been shown that many batterers will not follow the rules - or obey the order. Even the justice system is begining to admit a restraining order is just a piece of paper.
The article I read today is a case in point. It is even a good article - it covers some of the myths that cloud domestic violence, and covers the progression that the attacks usually go through. The article, Torrance seminar seeks domestic violence solutions, covers getting help, but the type of help discussed is severely limited.
[One victim of violence] had recognized the danger she was in and did what she could to protect herself. She got a restraining order and tried to keep her distance.Unfortunately this was not enough. She was stabbed to death by her ex-boyfriend.
In those few moments that you have when faced with violent attacker - be they ex-lover or random street thug - you are beyond the help of police (who are many minutes away even if have a chance to call). You have to be able to meet a violent attack with some resistance. Whether you choose to study the martial arts, buy a Taser or carry a firearm is up to you. But relying on the system is a recipe for disaster. Even when the system works perfectly, it cannot respond fast enough to stop a tragedy in most situations.
If these organizations truly want people who are battered and stalked to be safe, they would embrace effective self-defense. It is my cynical nature that assumes they do not want to solve the problem. Without a constant supply of victims, victims' rights advocates would be out of business.