I love statistics. I know that there are Lies, Damn Lies and Statistics- a good intro to statistics if you are interested - but I do know that the stats can really tell a true story. In this case, the statistics are a bit alarming.
Over the past 10 years, domestic violence has been the leading cause of violent death for Vermont women. The Vermont Department of Children and Families has reported that “almost 2,300 children were victims of or witnessed domestic or sexual violence in their homes in 2005.”Vermont is not a large state.
The impacts are not small.
What the general public is not widely aware of is the depth of the suffering that families endure behind closed doors that never gets reported. Children living in these homes tend to be anxious, insecure, and fearful; they have difficulty in school, may skip school altogether, and may exhibit violent behavior. Their home environment also often causes delays in their emotional development.And of course it is generational - or appears to be. Children who are abused or witness abuse have a large chance of growing up to be abusers, as much as a 90% chance according to Psychology Today.
“The most dangerous time for the mother and her children is after they leave,” Wynona Ward, executive director of Have Justice Will Travel (HJWT) in Vershire wrote recently in her organization’s newsletter. “The batterer feels he is losing control and becomes even more aggressive.”This is where I sometimes differ with the recommendations of the Left. Shelters and other resources to get the abused spouse safe, of course, but being safe should include real self-defense. (Something along the lines of a 9mm or .45 pistol, some instruction and some ammunition and a concealed carry permit. Or at least the info on how to get a CCW.) Courts need to send batterers to jail, not to anger management class. Assault is a crime even if committed by one spouse against another.