Friday, February 26, 2010

The Tragedy of Domestic Violence

This kid was going somewhere. No. 5's bright future, cut short by family violence -

His mother's ex-boyfriend was upset about the "ex" part of that, so he showed up to do violence. When the police arrived, he shot Rajaan Bennett, 18, and then killed himself.
At school, Rajaan Bennett was the senior with the shiny future -- the honors student and star running back who led his Georgia high school team to its first undefeated season.

He'd just gotten a full scholarship to Vanderbilt University. He wanted to be an architect.
This is a tragedy. A young life cut short, because some idiot didn't understand, "It's over!"
A week before he died, [Rajaan] Bennett wrote an essay for a school class. He called it "Strength."

"My drive cannot be stopped or slowed down because every obstacle has a way around it," he wrote. "Every day I become stronger from the weights physically, the books mentally and life emotionally. There is no limit to my strength and at the end of the day, I want to be the strongest."
Domestic violence is up. Domestic violence murders are up (though statistics are hard to come by).

But the 'victimization industry' refuses to look at things like self-defense. When danger came knocking the family hid in a bathroom and called police. Havint the means to defend themselves may not have helped (though I think a 12 gauge would trump a .22), relying on police to save you has too often been shown to be a losing bet.

Still, we need to do something better about teaching people to handle the end of relationships better. This issue crosses all racial lines, all economic lines, all geographic lines. And things are getting worse.

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